Questions Your Provider Wants You to Ask

If you’ve ever hesitated to ask your doctor a question because you were embarrassed or unsure, you’re not alone. It probably happens every day. So let’s talk about it. 

The truth is your primary care provider wants to understand your concerns, answer your questions, and help you feel empowered in your own health journey. 

Here are some questions your primary care provider wants you to ask, and ways to bring up topics that might make you uncomfortable. 

“Is this normal…?” 

• Is the color/smell of my poop, pee or vaginal discharge normal? 
• Is it normal to pee this often? 
• It’s getting more difficult to urinate. Is that normal? 
• Is this lump or mole normal? 
• It hurts when I have sex. Is that normal? 

Sometimes it’s nothing to worry about, but sometimes it’s a sign of a medical condition that can range from minor to serious. We are happy to answer your question and put your mind at ease. We’re even happier to catch a sign of trouble early when it’s most treatable. 

“I’m worried about….” 

• I’m worried about my weight.  
• I’m worried I’m drinking too much. 
• I’m worried I’ll never be able to quit smoking/vaping. 
• I’m worried about my own or a loved one’s drug use.
• I’m worried about my parenting skills.

These are all issues that can affect your health and may impact the health and wellness of your loved ones. Your doctor can help you understand the health risks involved and provide resources for everything from smoking cessation tools to support groups to parenting classes.

Safety-related questions.

• I started taking an over-the-counter supplement. Is it safe?
• I want to try this new health trend. Is it safe?
• I don’t feel safe at home. What can I do? 
• I think I was assaulted, but I’m not sure. Is there anything I can do now?

Primary care providers are not only a source of reliable medical information, we are also a trusted resource for addressing abuse, neglect, violence and human trafficking. Because a doctor’s visit may be one of the few times someone is not accompanied by their abuser, we take very seriously our responsibility to make this a safe place to seek help. 

Mental health conversation starters.

• I’ve been more sad than normal. 
• I don’t enjoy the things I used to enjoy.
• I’ve been having suicidal thoughts.
• I worry so much that I can’t sleep.
• I can’t get over my grief. 

Bringing up mental health issues can be difficult, but please know it’s a very important part of your overall health. We will treat your mental health with the same dignity and care as any other health concern. 

Clarifying questions.

• Could you explain that again? 
• What does that word mean?
• Could you write that down?

We want you to leave your visit with a better understanding of your health and the next steps for your personal health journey. If you’re unsure of anything, please ask. 

Your primary care provider is your partner in your health journey. Being open about your concerns helps build a foundation of trust and communication which will help you make informed decisions about your well-being for years to come. So don’t hesitate to bring up what’s on your mind. We’re here to support you.