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Merry or Meltdown? Holiday Break Tips for Families

By Monica Arora, MD December 03, 2024 Posted in: Mental Health, Parenting

Who doesn’t love the holidays? A time of twinkling lights, festive gatherings, and… potential family chaos. While the winter break is something kids eagerly anticipate, it can also present unique challenges for parents who are juggling work with family time. Here are some strategies to help you keep the holiday season joyful for everyone.

Balancing Activities & Expectations

Summer's a distant memory and another break is upon us. Whether you're a meticulously planning parent or a "go-with-the-flow" type, the holidays can test even the most organized families. We juggle work commitments, traditions, and the unique needs of each child. There's no one-size-fits-all approach; single parents, dual-income families, and those with varying resources all face different hurdles.

The key is open communication and realistic expectations. Before involving the kids, parents should discuss their own priorities and limitations, and reach agreement. Then, involve the whole family in planning. What traditions are important to maintain? Are there new ones you'd like to try? Is travel a part of the picture? Consider everyone's preferences, including planned events and any limitations on resources.

Structure, Chores, and Self-Care

While structure is important, it doesn't need to be rigid. Maintain consistent routines and rituals, but avoid over-scheduling. Remember, the holidays are meant to be a time of relaxation and connection. Be realistic about chores; don't expect extra housework just because kids are home. And don't forget self-care! Prioritize healthy sleep, nutrition, exercise and hygiene for the whole family.

Navigating Digital Downtime

Today's children are "digital natives," making screen time management a significant challenge. Shutting down electronics completely isn’t reasonable because this is how children, particularly teens, stay in touch with friends. Instead, work with your children to establish reasonable screen time limits while encouraging face-to-face interactions and time spent outside or away from devices. 

Some parents don't realize they can work with their internet provider to explore parental controls and online safety features. It’s just as important to be a role model by limiting your own screen time. Remember, open communication and shared expectations are crucial.  

The Spirit of Giving

The holidays are a wonderful opportunity to embrace the spirit of giving.  Consider volunteering as a family, adopting a family in need, or creating homemade gifts for neighbors. These activities foster connection and create lasting memories that can add meaning to the season.

Make Memories, Not Stress

Winter break is relatively short. Don't let the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday overwhelm you. Remember, every family is unique, and parents know their children best.  Focus on enjoying quality time together while being sensitive to the individual needs of each child. The most important thing is to relax, connect, and make lasting memories. 

Monica Arora, MD
Monica Arora, MD

Monica Arora, MD, is a child and adolescent psychiatry provider at CHI Health.

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